I can’t believe the universe just provided validation for a decision I took this year. I’m referring to a recent column of yours on domestic abuse.
Last New Year’s Eve I visited my sister and tried hard to avoid any discussion of her marital life. Her 20-year marriage has been filled with infidelity and abuse of every sort. Of course, she starts in on her husband’s girl-chasing and what she should do.

I am a young, 46-year-old Grammy to two boys ages eight and 20 months. I am extremely close to them as well as to my daughter, mother, and father.
I was let go from my job in 2011 and have been unemployed since. I have been watching my grandsons - the older one is in school during the school year - every day, Monday through Friday, since then.

Wayne and TamaraDirect Answers is the weekly relationship advice column by Wayne and Tamara Mitchell. The column was begun in April 1999 and within two years appeared in newspapers in more than a dozen countries.






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