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My mother and I are in yet another silent period. Again, it is her choice. She is 70 and I am 48. Mother and I were reminiscing, and the conversation to that point was pleasant. When I was a child, we had a caretaker with a distinctive cry for my brothers. I mimicked her cry, and mom and I both laughed. Suddenly, the tide turned as if I stabbed my mom with a knife. It all has to do with mom’s mother. She died when mom was nine, and after this my mom’s life was tough, going from home to hom...
I like the blatantly honest answers you give in your columns and website. In brief, I am 44, married 22 years, and contemplating divorce, but hindered by the fact I vowed to go through better or worse with him. A promise is a promise, and a vow is a vow, right? My husband shows me complete disrespect by ridiculing all my requests. When I ask him politely not to leave x, y, and z laying around, he says it's my wifely duty to take care of him. I am tired of getting up when he needs a beer or this...
Five months ago, I met a guy, 21, and we fell in love. I am 26. I've come to accept that because I look a lot younger, younger guys will always find me attractive. I got some good advice once that if the relationship is good and makes me happy, people around me will learn to accept the person. Being an African doesn't help the situation because relationships between older women and younger men aren't quite accepted yet. However, my boyfriend and I are doing fine, and my friends and his have acce...
My son had a rough divorce, and his family stayed with him all the way. He used his hands on her, but she had been pushing his buttons. Along with the divorce came financial problems, and we loaned him money. He lived with us for about a year and then moved out on his own. All the while, he was a very good son living under his parents’ roof. He was fortunate to earn a decent living, and one day he met a lovely girl who eventually became his second wife. He borrowed money to start his own busines...
I have been in a relationship for two years. Early on, my boyfriend became angry about picking up the tab, even though I offered many times and he turned me down. We worked through that and I try to be aware of equality. Recently we were driving to a party for a coworker. I also consider her a friend. My boyfriend drove, as he always turns down my invitation to drive. En route to the party, he glanced down at me programming my phone, and we heard a big bump. The car had hit something. We could...
What is the definition of a "player?" I remember the line "players only love you when they're playing" from an old Fleetwood Mac song, but I never understood it. Three years ago I met a man I thought was the most wonderful person in the world. He was 42. Until he was 37 he had a pattern of short relationships. Then, against his life pattern, he married and had a child. For him, it was a bad choice. She was a substance abuser. When I met him, we were both divorced. I was never allowed to meet...
My mother-in-law is a hysterical, manipulative, two-faced woman who thinks she is the center of the universe. Her three children adore her and won't confront her even when she is wrong. My mother-in-law tops any story people relate with one of her own. She makes vague promises, then doesn't follow up. Not getting her way, she throws a crying fit so everyone feels sorry for her. My problem is she wants to displace me as the mother of my child. At my baby's first birthday party she had him in her...
Each day, I feel I am merely existing and not living. I was widowed at 32 and have remained single. I feel unfulfilled with my job, my kids, and in this small town. I've always been restless, but I always made do. My kids are teenagers. As I get older, I want to do something drastically different with my life. A year ago, I corresponded with a man living in Alaska. I chickened out because it seemed too hard. I didn't feel I could live in the Alaskan bush after spending all my life taking indoor...
Good morning. A very early morning, I might add, because I'm finding it hard to sleep. I'm involved with a man who loves me deeply and would do anything for me, but who doesn't know who he is? He had a very sorrowful childhood. His father died young, and his mother was left to raise the children alone. She could handle the girls fairly well, being one herself, but she didn't know what to do with the boys. So Will and his brothers were sent to boarding school. The light of Will's life became his...
My wife and I are newlyweds, and we have had our first fight. We were out of town on vacation. To make a long story short, we got on each other's nerves due to the flight delays. After a huge argument, we came home separately. She wants a divorce after only three months of marriage. She is a dominant person, a spoiled brat, a daddy's girl, and a Leo by zodiac. By nature, I am an impatient person and a Taurus. I am not now in our home and desperately want to reconcile. I suggested counseling,...
For the last six years, I have been married to the most wonderful man. I was married before and have two children. He was married twice before and has two children with his first wife. Now, my problem. The second wife is 15 years older than my husband, and they were married 14 months before she packed up and moved away. After he filed for divorce, she moved back here. We married a year later, and she won't leave us alone. She sends us mail, and two years ago she moved two blocks away. She...
Recently Ted, a nice coworker, joined my group. We work together on all projects and share ideas and communication with our manager on a daily basis. Ted started carpooling with the boss. At that point, he changed. What were joint projects, did Ted make his own? When I tried to contact our boss to do the same, it was obvious he prefers Ted. The two of them talk at home and go to church together. I have been in my group for over two years and work hard to be creative. Now I find any time I do...
I need some serious advice. My boyfriend Jack and I met during our senior year in college. After graduation, we continued our relationship even though we live an hour apart. Last Christmas Jack surprised me with an engagement ring. Jack's family and I are very close. In fact, I am the godmother of his sister's first child. Every weekend we have all been working together to get things ready for our wedding. Jack and I talk about how lucky we are to have each other. Last week I received a phone...
I feel I'm dreaming. I met him in Courmayeur in the Alps one night. If it wasn't for my devastatingly drunk girlfriend, I would never have met the love of my life. While I was in the lady's room, she screamed and cursed some guy at the bar. When I returned, my friend was invited to calm down and have a seat. Amongst the table, there he was with three of his friends. He lives in the States. Perfect! He's single, even better! We left the bar with everyone, singing at the top of the world. For the...
If I had to do it over again, I would not have gotten married. My husband and I are very passionate people. In a movie that would mean we make wild love and have an adventurous life. Unfortunately, in the real world, it translates into hostile fights and unforgettable, unforgivable statements. I have been married a little over a year and prefer to be alone. I have no desire to spend time with him. I just like to have him around on a Saturday night to go to a movie. I dream of being by myself...
I need some serious advice. My boyfriend Jack and I met during our senior year in college. After graduation, we continued our relationship even though we live an hour apart. Last Christmas Jack surprised me with an engagement ring. Jack's family and I are very close. In fact, I am the godmother of his sister's first child. Every weekend we have all been working together to get things ready for our wedding. Jack and I talk about how lucky we are to have each other. Last week I received a phone...
My daughter is a high school senior, 18 years old. She is very cute, extremely athletic, and will graduate with high honors. Cami has been very easy to direct and raise. Her girlfriends are also bright and popular, but Cami is less secure with boys. Some friends introduced her to a group of boys from another school. One of the boys, Anthony, is a goalie at his school; Cami is also a goalie for her school. She seems to like him. Anthony came by to carry her to the movies tonight. Shock! He is...
When Jeff and I met 15 years ago, we truly believed we were soul mates. To this day we've never been bored with each other. We spend hours together talking, playing, laughing, scheming. People say he worships the ground I walk on. He's always been sexual in a boyish way, and when we first met, he said he no longer lusted after women. He was married to his first wife then, and she later informed me he would always cheat, even on me. Three years into the marriage my 18-year-old son saw Jeff and a...
I need help. The woman I am seeing is the most incredible person I have ever known. We get along wonderfully, love the same things, and the sex is indescribable. The problem is after orgasm I get very sick to my stomach. This has never happened to me before...ever! What's the deal? Ken Ken, a friend once told me about a dream he had. He was standing on a beach surf casting when he felt an enormous tug on his line. He jerked his rod back hard, and his catch flew over his head and landed behind...
I am a happily married woman with school-aged children. I am also in love with "Steven," a man I knew back in college. Though there was undeniable magnetism between us when we met, I was already dating the man I later married. Steven and I had only a couple of nights of dynamic passion. After graduation, we had no contact until the Internet came along. For four years we've emailed and talked as lovers. We exchanged sexual fantasies about each other and even a few explicit photos. We live less...
I am a young woman who is single again after a nasty breakup with her ex. We divorced when he suddenly realized he was transgendered. He started the process of turning into a woman, but a few months later, begged me on his knees to give him a second chance. I did. When I found out "she" cheated on me, it was the final straw. Recovering from this traumatic experience took a long time, and I was convinced I function best as a single gal. That is, until a few days ago. I am a director of theatre...
I was in a five-year relationship with my brother-in-law's sister, and she left me for someone else. Over the years, I built so many dreams with her I still can't accept what happened. Then I met this gal who was my office colleague. She is beautiful, intelligent, full of energy, and a great sincere friend. She made me forget my worries and made me laugh. I was attracted to her and she was attracted to me, but neither of us confessed our feelings until she accepted a great job offer in another...
I'm deeply disturbed about my brother Ed. We're a family that's never gotten deeply involved in each other's problems. We're close but try not to meddle. However, I think Ed has reached a difficult point. He's been married for seven years, and it's been hard for both of them. Ed has been chasing a business dream that never paid off. He's the type of guy everyone admires for his intelligence, charm, and creativity, but he frustrates us all because he can never seem to focus. He's frustrated too....
I was in a five-year relationship with my brother-in-law's sister, and she left me for someone else. Over the years, I built so many dreams with her that I still can't accept what happened. Then I met this gal who was my office colleague. She is beautiful, intelligent, full of energy, and a great sincere friend. She made me forget my worries and made me laugh. I was attracted to her and she was attracted to me, but neither of us confessed our feelings until she accepted a great job offer in...
I am having a problem in paradise. First of all, I am 22, he is 31. We have known each other for a little over a month. At first, he was more affectionate than I was. He felt a little upset I wasn't moving as fast as he was affectionately. Not that he was trying to be sexual, he just wanted cuddling, hugging, and kissing. For some reason he thought we were "two different people." He was unsure whether we should even talk anymore. I didn't see that! We had a long debate, and everything was good a...
